What happens when the person who consoles, comforts, and encourages others is left without an encouraging word for themselves? That is were I am now. I am emotionally drained.
Its hard to relax sometimes and just be Kelli. Every minute of everyday I am something to someone. I am a wife, a mother, a student, an employee, an assistant, a friend, etc. The list could go on and on forever. But what happens when i can't be everything to everyone? Today i reached my breaking point. I finally realized that while i am the support system and go to person for many people, i didn't have a support system of my own. I thought i did by having family and friends who love me, but it wasn't enough.
Sometimes we need a person to just listen to us. Someone who is not judging us, is not giving advice, has no hidden agendas, and who won't go back and tell others what we've discussed. I think that women often put themselves on the back burner and have need to nurture others. We want or need to take care of everyone and take control of many things. But when we put our own health on the back burner, we do more damage to ourselves and others than we realize.
I suggest you choose one activity that is just for you. Set aside a time that you can do this activity. Commit to this on a regular basis and minimize distractions. Even if it's watching a soap opera rerun or taking a long walk. It needs to be your time to breathe, to reflect, and relax.
You cannot take care of others if you don't put you first sometimes.
Its hard to relax sometimes and just be Kelli. Every minute of everyday I am something to someone. I am a wife, a mother, a student, an employee, an assistant, a friend, etc. The list could go on and on forever. But what happens when i can't be everything to everyone? Today i reached my breaking point. I finally realized that while i am the support system and go to person for many people, i didn't have a support system of my own. I thought i did by having family and friends who love me, but it wasn't enough.
Sometimes we need a person to just listen to us. Someone who is not judging us, is not giving advice, has no hidden agendas, and who won't go back and tell others what we've discussed. I think that women often put themselves on the back burner and have need to nurture others. We want or need to take care of everyone and take control of many things. But when we put our own health on the back burner, we do more damage to ourselves and others than we realize.
I suggest you choose one activity that is just for you. Set aside a time that you can do this activity. Commit to this on a regular basis and minimize distractions. Even if it's watching a soap opera rerun or taking a long walk. It needs to be your time to breathe, to reflect, and relax.
You cannot take care of others if you don't put you first sometimes.
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