The Submissive Wife Pt 2

As I was watching Khloe & Lamar the other day, i noticed some role reversals in their relationship.  Yes, I considered the fact that 'editing' could be to blame or that this was just a small piece in their big puzzle.  But as I pondered on the idea of what their marriage is really like, it became clear to me that submission is not a factor.

 

Lately I have seen many relationships/marriages that are dominated by the woman, while the man sits passively until he gets frustrated enough to either cave in or snap.  Either way it is not healthy.  I must revert back to a previous post when I referenced the scriptures that relate Chirst, husbands, and wives.  "²² Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. ²³ For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. ²⁴ Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

 ²⁵ Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her ²⁶ to make her holy, cleansing^[b] her by the washing with water through the word, ²⁷ and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. ²⁸ In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. ²⁹ After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— ³⁰ for we are members of his body. ³¹ "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."^{[c] 32} This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. ³³ However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband."

 

It has been my experience that a woman who is raised or learns to be 'Ms. Independent' and not let any one take advantage of her plays defense alot.  This team also includes those with a great deal of emotional baggage.  A woman who is raised or learns to be 'Mrs. Independent' understands the need for her individuality, but can also allow a man to be a man.  She knows her role.  Once again I must remind you that submission is not dominance.  The problem, as I see it, lies in the lane changing.

 

For example, a woman who learns to be her own boss, set her own rules, do what's best for her, may have a hard time listening to her husband's needs, following his direction, letting him be the boss.  But aren't we supposed to do that?  Aren't we, as women, supposed to respect our husbands, cater to their needs, look up to them, etc?  But far to often we get caught up in the 'me me me syndrome' and forget that in order for our husbands to lead, we must follow and be quiet sometimes.  Listening is just as important as speaking, if not more.

 

How can a man take care of his family, set the example for his children, be proud of himself & his good deeds, if a woman is constantly criticizing him, nagging him, questioning him, and watching his every move?  It is a control factor, and can lead to an unhealthy relationship.

 

I urge you to re-examine your past and current relationships.  Have you switched lanes?  I'm guilty of it to, but after much meditation I learned to stay in my lane and be the passenger sometimes.  When hubby needs me to drive, I will.  'Till then, I'm enjoying the view.

 

-Breathing a breath of fresh air!