It seems like every where I turn, I'm hearing about someone having marriage trouble. It hurts my heart to see marriages suffer because people let the devil divide and attempt to conquer.
I first want to start by thanking God for my marriage. It is not perfect, but it is perfect for us through His help. I've been married for 3 1/2 years, but we've been together for 8 years. When the old folks say marriage is a full time commitment or job, they mean it. There is no 'I' in 'Team'. And that's exactly what you and your spouse are, a team. The game began when you said your vows and the clock has not run out yet.
So today, I want to share a few lessons I have learned along the way.
First and foremost, before you even say 'I DO', you must say 'I DO' to God (or whomever you believe in). You have to vow to Him that you will always keep Him as the head and not the tail, that you will follow His plans for your lives, and that you will honor, trust, love, and obey His commands. It has been my experience that a successful marriage will not work with out a higher power being in the midst.
Secondly, you must have trust. How can you say you love someone, if you do not trust them? If you are constantly snooping through your spouse's things, questioning their whereabouts, and checking the car mileage, then you can not have a healthy relationship. I trust that my husband loves me. I trust that he will take care of us, protect us, and respect us. I trust that what he tells me is the truth because I do not have a reason not to. Granted there are circumstances in which partner A distrusts partner B (i.e. a reformed cheater). But if you have forgiven, then you need to forget and build up your spouse and your marriage, not tear it down. A house divided will not stand.
The third factor, and what I am seeing a lot of lately, is finances. How many times have we heard of marriages ending in divorce because of a lack of financial understanding. I must revert back to the team. There should not be your pay check and my pay check. It is our money. We make decisions together. We TRUST that the other will not hide money nor spend it recklessly. You now have 1 household to maintain. Nothing should be hidden. If you trust them, then this should not be a problem.
I shall stop there and let you all meditate on that. I am curious to your thoughts on the subject and what lessons you have learned along the way. Feel free to post openly and respectfully.
Are you committed to commitment?
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