Are you Connected or Just Married?

I was having a conversation with myself today (don't judge me) and this concept hit me like a ton of bricks.  Are you connected or just married?  Being married means you have lawfully committed yourself to someone in the eyes of God.  Anyone can get married.  Many of them stay married for years without having a true connection.  How do you ask?  Simple.

At some point in any relationship, things start to become routine.  You fall into the trance of the mundane or get swept up in a comfortable state that shuns excitement.  You still work together as a team on some things, but it is not the same.  There are fewer moments of passion, agreement, and excitement.  One could appear to care less about the other.  You are just married.  To the outside world, you are the perfect couple, the envied couple, or the been together so long that I don't know how to start over couple.  To you, life is miserable.  You come home to a coldness and go to bed alone every night.  Your spouse does not have to absent from the bed for you to feel alone at night.  You are just married.  That sparkle in your eyes is slowly diminishing and shifts to managing schedules, focusing all of your energy on the kids, community, and then one on one time with your spouse.

When you are connected, you do everything in sync.  The sparkle is still there and it gets brighter each day.  Why?  Simply because each day you treat it as if it is your first and last day with your spouse.  You have held on the fire that burned when you first fell in love.  You walk in sync, talk in sync, pray in sync, and serve in sync.  Team work in a marriage is a beautiful thing.  You may still get wrapped up in routines and schedules, but you always manage to be consistent in showing love towards each other.  There is always time for each other on the schedule or in your life for your spouse.  You are connected on a spiritual level because you pray, study, and worship together.  You are connected on a physical level because you have not neglected your spouse's sexual needs and are getting yours met.  you are connected on a mental level because you continue to challenge each other to strive for more and to think bigger and deeper.

Finally, you are connected on a physical level because you communicate with each other and are present for each other.  there is no guessing if he/she is going to show up to a very important event because they arrived with you.  The frustration that comes from living parallel lives is not present because you are consciously making the effort to work on your marriage each day.  There is no such thing as being complacent.  We strive for more in our professional lives.  Why not in our relationships and in our marriages?  Are you connected or just married?